Discussion Guide
In this series, First Things First, we've talked about what it looks like to keep God at the center of every area of our lives, covering relationships, priorities, and parenting. As we finish this series, we end on the topic of honoring your parents. For some people, this comes naturally. For others, this topic carries pain, tension, grief, or difficult memories. We recognize that every family story is different, and not every relationship is simple or healthy. Life groups should be a safe place to process honestly while continuing to come back to what scripture teaches us about honor, wisdom, forgiveness, and healing. The goal of this topic is not perfection or pretending. The goal is to invite God into our relationships and allow Him to shape our hearts and align us with His Word.
What you will need: A Bible or your Bible app, a notebook, pen, and highlighter. The verses highlighted below are linked so that you can easily access them during your study time.
Jump Start
1. Growing up, what was “normal” in your house that you later realized was not normal at all? What’s one lesson, habit, recipe, phrase, or value that stuck with you from your childhood? Or what is something your parents or guardians used to say that you swore you’d never say...but now you say it too?
2. Read Ephesians 6:1-4. Why do you think honoring your parents matters so much to God? What is the difference between honor and agreement? Verse 4 also speaks to parents. What responsibility do parents have according to this passage?
3. Read Exodus 20:12. Why do you think this commandment comes right after the commands about honoring God? How can honoring our parents reflect our relationship with God? As you’ve gotten older, have you gained a greater appreciation for sacrifices your parents or guardians, made? What are some practical ways adults can still honor parents?
4. Read Proverbs 23:22, Colossians 3:20-21, Ephesians 4:31. How can humility protect us from unnecessary pain? Who are the trusted voices God has placed in your life right now? Why do we sometimes confuse forgiveness with removing boundaries? What does it look like to “break cycles” for the next generation?
Action Step: Jesus modeled both truth and grace in John 19:26-27. Even in his suffering. He made room for compassion, care, and honor. Keeping God first changes how we respond to people, even in complicated relationships. Ask God this week to help you take one practical step toward honor:
• Is there gratitude I need to express?
• Is there bitterness I need to surrender to Him?
• Is there a conversation I need to have?
• Is there wisdom or healing I need to seek?
**God, we pray for healing where there is pain, gratitude where there has been sacrifice, and wisdom in difficult relationships. We pray for parents, guardians, and spiritual parents. For hearts that keep God first in every relationship.
Optional - Deeper Dive: Read Ruth 1:16-18; 2:2-3. What do you notice about Ruth’s loyalty and commitment? How did she show honor through her actions? How can honor influence future generations?