Discussion Guide
This week, we continue our look at who the Holy Spirit is and how He works in our lives. Many people think of the Holy Spirit as a feeling or a moment of emotion, but He is so much more. He is the living, active presence of God in us. Today, we’ll explore one of the most challenging truths: the Holy Spirit cannot be controlled. As people, we like structure, predictability, and control. But following the Spirit often means releasing our grip and trusting His leading—even when it doesn’t fit our schedule or plans. Remember, this is a safe place, with no judgement, as we share and learn to recognize His voice together.
What you will need: A Bible or your Bible app, a notebook, pen, and highlighter. The verses highlighted below are linked so that you can easily access them during your study time.
Jump Start
1. On a scale of 1-10, 1 being, “whatever happens, happens” 10 being, “I’ll just do it myself”; how much of a control freak are you? Have you ever redone something someone just did? (folding towels, loading the dishwasher, putting away groceries, washing the car)
2. The Holy Spirit Cannot be Calculated. Read John 3:8, Acts 16:6-10. How is the Holy Spirit like the wind in John 3:8? What does this tell us about His nature? How do Paul and Silas demonstrate faith in Acts 16 when the Spirit changes their plans? When have you experienced a moment when your plans changed but later realized God had a better one?
3. The Holy Spirit Cannot be Commanded. Read Acts 19:13-16. What stands out to you about the difference between the sons of Sceva and Paul? What does this verse reveal about knowing about Jesus versus actually knowing Him? How do we sometimes try to “use” or “summon” God for our benefit instead of submitting to His will? Why is a relationship more powerful than a religious routine or an emotional experience?
4. The Holy Spirit Cannot be Contained. Read 2 Corinthians 3:17-18, Romans 8:11. What does it mean that “where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom”? How can we live as though the Spirit cannot be contained by our circumstances or fears? What are some ways we try to box in or resist the Spirit’s leading? Is there one small way you would like to share with the group, that God is prompting you to “let go” or a celebration of an area you already have?
Action Steps:
*Pray Daily: “Holy Spirit, help me to trust Your leading more than my own understanding.”
*Pay attention to moments where you sense His prompting, especially when it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable.
*Be ready to follow. Freedom grows through obedience.
Deeper Dive (Optional): Read Numbers 22:21-35. How does Balaam’s story show God’s sovereignty over human control? What can we learn from the way God speaks—sometimes through surprising or uncomfortable means?