THE COMPARISON TRAP
Mechelle Holbrook
Today’s Scripture: “And Saul was very angry, and this saying displeased him. He said, ‘They have ascribed to David ten thousands, and to me they have ascribed thousands, and what more can he have but the kingdom?’ And Saul eyed David from that day on.” 1 Samuel 18:8-9, ESV
Theme: We can become angry and suspicious of people we once loved when comparisons are made, and we appear to be less respected, revered, or admired than someone else – even if we (like Saul was) are in an objectively good position.
IT STARTS EARLY
Compare, compare, compare!
Remember back in elementary school? If our friend got a new lunch box, special erasers, or a cool backpack — we wanted one, too! Or maybe the teacher picked our friend for something instead of us, and suddenly we were mad at them. What in the world? It doesn’t stop there. By high school, we found new things to compare — outfits, popularity, grades, sports, and relationships. And as adults, the list only grows: jobs, houses, cars, kids, vacations, even lawns. How appropriate the title of this series is, “The American Scheme.” Comparison follows us through every season of life — and if we’re not careful, it can rob us of the joy that God intends for us to have.
WHEN COMPARISON CONSUMES
King Saul fell into the same trap. Even though he was chosen by God to be king of Israel — blessed with authority, opportunity, and favor — he became consumed with the attention David received. Instead of celebrating David’s victories, Saul grew jealous and bitter. Comparison stole his peace, his purpose, and eventually, his relationship with God. Saul took his eyes off the One who had given him everything. It’s not so different for us. When we see others being praised, promoted, or blessed, it can stir something inside — that quiet whisper that says, “What about me?” But when we listen to that voice, it leads to discontent and damaged relationships. Comparison blinds us to the blessings God has already given us.
THE CURE: KEEPING OUR EYES ON JESUS
David’s story shows us a better way. Even when he was favored by the people and anointed by God, he stayed humble. He had every opportunity to take revenge on Saul, but he chose God’s way, not his own. David kept his focus on the Lord — and that’s the key. When we fix our eyes on Jesus, comparison loses its power. We learn to celebrate others’ victories because we trust that God has a unique plan and timing for us to celebrate success, also. So, when jealousy or discontentment start to rise up, bring those feelings to God. Ask Him to help you see others the way He does — with love, grace, and gratitude. I am asking God to help me in this area as well.
Make It Personal: Where do you find yourself most tempted to compare — your appearance, your success, your relationships? What blessings might you be overlooking in your own life because of comparisons? This week, intentionally celebrate someone else’s win — send a message, cheer them on, or thank God for their success.
Pray: God, we confess that we often fall into the trap of comparison. We look at others and lose sight of all You’ve done for us. Search our hearts, Lord. Show us where jealousy and discontent have crept in. Help us to keep our eyes on You and to celebrate others with a genuine heart. Thank You for the unique way You’ve created and blessed each of us. Amen.
Read: Galatians 6:4, Proverbs 14:30
Weekly Memory Verse: “Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us” Hebrews 12:1-2, ESV